Self-harmIs “KYS” something to worry about? More Self-harm terms
KYS
Risk flagKill yourself — a hostile command or insult telling someone to harm themselves.
How kids use it
Often used as cyberbullying or aggressive language in gaming chats, Discord, Reddit, and comment sections; can escalate conflicts.
Treat "KYS" as real until you know otherwise. Kids often talk about distress in coded or joking language first — the cost of taking it seriously and being wrong is a slightly awkward conversation; the cost of dismissing it and being wrong is much higher.
- Ask directly and calmly. Naming it doesn’t plant the idea — that’s a myth.
- If there’s any indication of intent: the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988) is free and 24/7.
- Loosen the late-night phone window — distress content hits hardest alone at 2am.