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Messenger

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Facebook's messenger — tied to a public profile, so anyone can message your kid unless you lock down who's allowed to reach them.

Ages 13–15Ages 16+

Minimum age	13
Strangers can contact	No
Location sharing	No
Disappearing messages	Yes
Parental visibility	Limited

What it actually is

Messenger is the chat layer of Facebook and Instagram: text, voice, video, and disappearing media. The core risk is reachability — by default, people who aren't friends can send message requests, so strangers land in your kid's inbox and group chats can add unknown members. There's a separate Messenger Kids app with real parent controls; the regular app has none worth the name.

Privacy & Safety Settings:

Go to Settings & Privacy → Settings → Privacy
Restrict who can message you (set to Friends only, not Everyone)
Turn off "Allow story replies from" strangers
Review and manage blocked users regularly

Message Controls:

Use disappearing messages for sensitive conversations
Review the 15-minute edit/unsend window before sending

AI Assistant:

Meta AI is opt-in for creative tasks; disable if you want to limit AI interaction

For Younger Teens (13–15):

Enable "Who Can Contact You?" to Friends only
Regularly check group chats and active contacts
Monitor Stories visibility and note that Stories persist for 24 hours

Set up controls · Messenger

Facebook & Messenger Parental Controls — The Complete Parent Guide
Messenger Kids and teen Messenger are two opposite products — one gives you full control, the other only visibility you have to be invited into. Here's how to set up each.
Open guide →

→ Check your kid's other apps

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Clapper: Video, Live, Chat

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Updated June 2026

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