Surveillance
lurking
Risk flagParent or adult is reading the conversation silently without participating—surveillance without warning.
How kids use it
Kids use 'lurking?' to ask if a parent is passively watching; red flag that they expect hidden conversation to resume.
Is “lurking” something to worry about?
"lurking" is about avoiding adult eyes. That’s developmentally normal — every generation had a version of it — but it tells you where your current setup has gaps.
- Don’t make it a gotcha. The goal is a setup that works even when they route around one tool.
- Do the 10-minute audit for hidden and disguised apps vault-app audit →