SurveillanceIs “lurking” something to worry about? More Surveillance terms
lurking
Risk flagParent or adult is reading the conversation silently without participating—surveillance without warning.
How kids use it
Kids use 'lurking?' to ask if a parent is passively watching; red flag that they expect hidden conversation to resume.
"lurking" is about avoiding adult eyes. That’s developmentally normal — every generation had a version of it — but it tells you where your current setup has gaps.
- Don’t make it a gotcha. The goal is a setup that works even when they route around one tool.
- Do the 10-minute audit for hidden and disguised apps vault-app audit →